Author: Catherine Giese

 

College is a lot of fun and games, but it’s also about getting serious and being aware of the real world and how we can (and do) impact it. Domestic violence is quite the opposite of a light-hearted topic, but it’s seriously important to talk about. October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM), so here are some facts, figures, and resources in honor of all those who have been affected by this very real and very pressing social issue.

 

1. 1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.

While this is not exclusively a women’s issue by any stretch of the imagination, this is a truly scary number we cannot ignore.

 

2. 1 in 7 men will experience violence in an intimate relationship in his lifetime.

Shocked? It really can happen to anyone.

 

3. Violence occurs across all types of relationships, including LGBTQ.

While it occurs at different rates, this beats the stereotype of it only occurring in male-female romantic relationships.

 

4. Violence occurs across all socioeconomic backgrounds and cultures.

It can take different forms depending on the situation, but it occurs regardless.

 

 

5. Abuse can be physical, emotional, and psychological.

Often, physical signs of abuse come to mind when we think of domestic violence. However, manipulation, put-downs, and destruction of personal (often sentimental) property are all forms of abuse.

 

6. An instance of abuse is rarely an isolated event.

This one is important for spotting signs that a loved one could be in an abusive relationship. If you see something, do something.

 

7. An abuser will often try to isolate their victim.

Getting rid of their support network makes it harder for the victim to leave the relationship.

 

8. Abuse generally starts to show up months or years after the start of a relationship.

While it’s important to pay attention to red flags, it can be really hard to know whether or not a relationship will take a dark turn. It certainly shouldn’t be expected.

 

9. There are resources if you or a loved one needs help

The Advocacy Center is an amazing resource that serves Tompkins County in learning more about the issue of domestic violence, knowing the signs of abusive relationships, and for aiding those trying to get out of them. You can contact them at (607) 277-3203. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233.

 

Domestic violence is a heavy topic, but it’s one that needs to be talked about openly and honestly. Know the facts, know the signs, and break the silence. Always remember that love shouldn’t hurt.